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Difficult situations

How do we know if these are good or bad for us?

Girl thinking about a difficult situation

If you find yourself in a situation which is painful 😪, how can you recognize the good pain that is a part of personal development from the bad/destructive pain which you should avoid?

Well, there actually 2 different kinds of pain – one is when something is being healed 💖 and the other is when something is being broken 💔.

These two different kinds of pain are connected to two different kinds of motivation. One is motivation by desire / love / longing 💗💫to become the person which you feel you want to become as it is who you truly are deep inside.

The other motivation is motivation by fear😦. Usually, a fear of loosing the comfort zone. You can be afraid of losing relationships, losing a job, or not having enough money 💸… whatever your comfort zone is.

Motivated by desire💗✨ you develop and grow into better versions of yourself. Although the process might be painful it is very rewarding at the same time. You liberate yourself from the old subconscious programs and beliefs that stand in your way to freedom 💫 and happiness ✨.

Motivated by fear 😦 of losing the comfort zone you feel pain because you are getting hurt 💔. You stay in situations even though you know these are hurtful for you. Even though it hurts you, it feels familiar to you, something you know and that creates a feeling of false security. The more you stay in these situations, the more you are suppressing yourself 😔.

I love ❤️ the quote from Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard:

“To dare is to lose one's footing momentarily. Not to dare is to lose oneself.”

Losing the footing means losing your comfort zone in other words. So, the question you must ask yourself is:

Does it hurt because I am losing my comfort zone, or does it hurt because I am losing myself?

I think that deep down we all know our answer.

Love ❤️


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